Transgenders will tell you, “Sex is between your legs and Gender is between your ears”, meaning your brain sense of sex may not match your body sex at birth. Transgenders will also tell you that gender is just a social construct. Gender in the brain is sort of one of those things that is harder to prove. You brain doesn’t have a pair of pants you can pull down to prove what sex you are. Now, is when I’m going to depart from the biological and discuss the spiritual, which will require most readers to have some sense of belief that there is something beyond this physical life we can see and touch. I’m not embracing any religion or group, but simply talking about what could be inside each human being that survives the death of the body. Some call it your soul.
There is a belief called reincarnation that many have heard of, but heard very little of that may convince them that it is a real phenomenon. I usually preface most introductory conversations with folks with my favorite Youtube video of a woman who currently lives in Britain, but previously lived in Ireland in her past reincarnation with her husband and six children. In this present day life she traveled to Ireland and amazingly was able to find her still living children from her past reincarnation. Picture a 37-year-old woman trying to convince a 72-year-old man that she was your mother in her last reincarnation. Watch the story of Jenny Cockell and this will help put you in the right frame of mind to read the next paragraph. For those who already believe in reincarnation you may have already seen her story and my next paragraph won’t require a big leap of faith or mental gymnastics.
I say to you that being transgender is not so much about feeling like you are trapped in the body of the wrong sex, but it’s more of spiritual journey where you end up realizing we are genderless spiritual beings trapped in a body, regardless of the sex of the body. The spiritual being living in the temporary host body has no sex, but only experiences the sex of it’s host body and this happens time and time again from reincarnation to reincarnation. Most people, thankfully have no issues accepting that their sense of gender matches the sex of the body they are in. Out of the mess called gender dysphoria comes a message to the human race that could be spearheaded by transgender people. Close your eyes and dig deep into your being and you will understand. Body sex, while fun, is also a stumbling block to enlightenment. Many are far too absorbed in the temporary pleasures of the body instead of contemplating on the true issues about what it is to be human. Institutions of morality were imposed upon humanity, but very wise humans who knew what without rules humans would exist in constant state of chaos. When humans do not honor sexual relations as something special they all become degenerate sluts and then they are sad when love becomes so difficult or impossible to find? The old adage comes to mind, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”?
From my many years of investigating transgenders I think it’s safe to say they most would admit to being a confusing mixture of both sexes while identifying more as one. Societal constructs of gender may also have some sway as to how a transgenders gender identity may be more fluid. What is what is the seat of the consciousness or mind of a human being is this thing called a soul and a soul is actually genderless? A soul would be completely different from sex determined by sexual organs or chromosomes or any other type of biological based gender understanding in the brain. What if mind, body and soul were the three components we are all made up of? The body can have a sex and the mind may be proved to have a sex, but can a soul have a sex? If souls reincarnate into bodies of different sexes then does the soul have a sexchange with each reincarnation, or simply does the soul not have a sex?
Could someone having gender dysphoria, that is to say, could someone not having a well defined sense of gender regardless of who they are because, in truth, the soul that is the foundation of who each and every one of us is, has no gender? Could this realization be the key for humanity to unlock our potential as kind beings and leave the sex wars behind us? Imagine a world where we didn’t have a horrible history of inequality where men dominate women and sexual orientation or gender presentation are not vilified.
If only transgender people could become spiritual warriors instead of warring so much against their bodies. Believe me, being someone older, I can say that things get better. When you are young emotions are so high and there is the feeling of urgency that things gotta be done right now, today. When I was younger there was a sense of urgency to correct what I felt was a dirty trick of nature and I had to change my body as quickly as I could to finally begin living the the life I felt I was somehow cheated out of not being able to grow up as a girl. Feeling like a girl trapped in a boy’s body is really not so bad. In reality, I believe, if all people were aware they’d realize deep down inside that we are all the same regardless of sex or gender. We all grow up some being more masculine, some more feminine based on how we were raised and socialized from the time we are born. That’s not to say that nature itself does not present many masculine and feminine differences between the sexes. Being tender, kind, and long suffering do not have to be hallmarks of feminine behavior as well as climbing trees, playing football, and being a bodybuilder aren’t just hallmarks of masculine behavior.